Berlin - (dpa) - Notes at work come from all directions, whether one asks for it or not. Either he receives a negative note from his boss, or a comment from a colleague.

However, helpful and constructive feedback is rare, says Theresa McInner, motivational coach and author of the books.
Most importantly, it is natural for the comments one hears to have an impact on how one sees and judges oneself. But if the other person does not call it a "commentary", and presents it as absolute information according to what is said on it, then it will lose its significance.

Comments like this usually don't help, whether they're exaggerated praise or a personal attack.

So what are the best ways to deal with such comments? It's entirely up to the person who receives it, McSinner says, adding that only we can decide whether or not to accept such feedback.